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When you understand that you are finished getting babies… closing that chapter of the e-book


Oct 3, 2023
When you realize that you are done having babies… closing that chapter of the book


I have been pondering about this a ton and wanted to share it with you… that second when you notice that you are carried out acquiring toddlers and you are closing that chapter.

UPDATE: This submit was initially penned quite a few decades back, but it was on my coronary heart to share it again, so in this article it is again… WHEN YOU Know You’re Performed Having BABIES…

Mom holding her sleeping baby.

Final night time, whilst we were out to try to eat with our 4 kids, I appeared over at the booth across the place from our table.  I noticed a mom with her two teenage daughters.   I saw them laughing jointly, and I observed the women interacting with every other, earning faces that only the other one particular would understand.

I leaned in and whispered to my husband… “Wouldn’t it be awesome to have a sister for Allie? “

The appear that he gave again to me instructed me his solution (I had 5 incredibly significant-risk pregnancies, a single ending in a decline~ browse that story here).

(This was us in 2012… obtaining out that she was a lady.)


I am slowly but surely mastering that although he has usually agreed to four youngsters and I usually knew that this was our “magic amount,”… you know, the a single that we both equally agree on?  I nevertheless had that small assumed in my mind… what about a person additional?

I assume that coming to conditions with the truth that you are performed having babies is difficult, no matter if this is soon after you have experienced a person toddler or 18 babies… noticing that this is your Final baby is something to prevent you, to make you assume, to make you appreciate and miss out on what you had and have.


The very last time that you felt that very first flutter in your belly- the 1 that felt like very small butterfly wings on the wall of your uterus.

The previous time that I ran to the lavatory after my partner burnt something in the kitchen due to the fact my being pregnant hormones ended up not letting me cope with any smells out of the norm.

The final time that our sons would set their hands on my tummy and wait around for their sibling to kick it absent.

The final time that I viewed my stomach move whilst our toddler changed positions.

The past time that our toddler, in my belly, would kick my husband’s back whilst I slept all through the night (our babies were being constantly so lively at night time).

The very last time I would be rushed to the healthcare facility was in the middle of the evening.


The last time that I would be advised to thrust or that I would say, “I can do this without having ache treatment,” only to cry halfway via, telling my husband that it was this kind of horrible pain and inquiring, “Why did I wait so extended to request for an epidural?”

to the exclusive pumping mom

The previous time that I would keep a brand name new baby while they got made use of to remaining Outside the house of the womb…

A woman holding a new born baby.

The previous time that I would carry a new child dwelling, site visitors would convey to me that he/she was “the tiniest little one I at any time held”  (our babies have been smaller- 5 lbs., 4 lbs., 7 lbs., and 6 lbs.)

The final time that I would nurse a little one, though rubbing that soft baby head with what felt like duck fuzz alternatively of hair, and hear to their little breath and grunt as they swallowed each individual sip of milk (that small, unintended smile that they have when they are slipping asleep with a comprehensive stomach)


Indeed, the past baby is a tricky chapter to shut in the e book of everyday living.

I guess what it seriously implies is that we are acquiring older.   Absent are the days when we invested a lifetime dreaming of these things… engagements, weddings, pregnancy, and start.   From the time that I was in elementary university, I can keep in mind pretending to be pregnant (Pillow under my shirt).  You expend so lots of decades dreaming of people days… and they occur and go so immediately!

Receiving older for me implies obtaining more mature for every person else, as well.  No additional first actions, or initially hugs, or first kisses.   I won’t enjoy a toddler cringe the first time that I place them in the amusing-emotion sand~  at the similar position where I initially met the beach front.


Or, on that exact same day, uncover how a great deal entertaining it can be to perform in the sand and look out at the ocean.


I won’t swing them over the ocean when they are tiny more than enough to let me lift them high more than enough to let those people minimal toes contact the h2o barely.


And, my youngsters will not know my maternal Grandparents (the cause that we know & adore the seashore as we do), due to the fact as we acquired older, so did they.

So, whilst not obtaining any more kids symbolizes all of these items for me, we are moving on from all those days.  

We are moving into our center yrs:  adventures, laughs, serious discussions with our kids, seeing their goals grow to be fact.   I can look at their relationships increase and view them bond, as additional than siblings, but as friends…


As my partner claims “Its time to near that chapter of the book.”   

Whilst the assumed of not staying in the child phase is unhappy for me, because I do appreciate it so, I am so fired up for what is to arrive.   Tonight we went out to evening meal and we had a great time (It is receiving a lot easier to go out to consume as they get older).   Even our toddler was just sitting beside me in the booth, having her dinner.  We all just talked.


I can only visualize how a lot pleasurable life will be as they continue to increase and we can continue on to link with them in means that we did not comprehend.

beau & I spending time together

It could not be by singing a lullaby or by tickling their piggy toes… it will be by listening to them, getting an curiosity in what they are interested in, and understanding from them whilst they master from us- starting to be their mates as they age.


So, I am prepared to near that chapter…  mainly because if you assumed that chapter was excellent,  just you wait…♥

I’d appreciate to invite you to be part of my cost-free one-on-1 time Obstacle.  I will deliver you this calendar, along with everyday e-mails with duties, guidance, and inspiration so you can have a connection with your young children that you often envisioned.

A calendar with a text over it.

In the meantime, love the attractive infants that you have raised… and glance forward to your Fun existence in advance, crammed with pleasure, love & laughter. 

MOMMY, will you lay with me? 

A women lying on a bed cuddling a young child.
all worth it

It was worthy of it… 

When the kids are older...


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